Comments on: Smashing Babies – Not a Good Idea… http://churchcrunch.com/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/ Exploring the Intersection of Web Technology and the Church Wed, 17 Mar 2010 22:20:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Graham Brennahttp://churchcrunch.com/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/comment-page-1/#comment-42277 Graham Brenna Wed, 27 May 2009 10:58:04 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42277 we do the same thing... see if it fits with the overall "BIG PICTURE" for our church... if not, let em down nice and easy. But sometimes the church doesn't let em down for fear of making them mad. Then we end up doing something that doesn't fit with the "BIG PICTURE". When will the church grow a pair?! we do the same thing… see if it fits with the overall "BIG PICTURE" for our church… if not, let em down nice and easy. But sometimes the church doesn't let em down for fear of making them mad. Then we end up doing something that doesn't fit with the "BIG PICTURE". When will the church grow a pair?!

]]> By: Graham Brennahttp://churchcrunch.com/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/comment-page-1/#comment-42276 Graham Brenna Wed, 27 May 2009 10:55:53 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42276 A humbling reminder. A humbling reminder.

]]> By: Aaronhttp://churchcrunch.com/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/comment-page-1/#comment-41982 Aaron Fri, 22 May 2009 18:55:55 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-41982 ^ Guilty! :/ ^

Guilty! :/

]]> By: human3rrorhttp://churchcrunch.com/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/comment-page-1/#comment-41862 human3rror Thu, 21 May 2009 13:51:05 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-41862 very true. i'm taking this to heart...! very true. i'm taking this to heart…!

]]> By: Rodlie Ortizhttp://churchcrunch.com/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/comment-page-1/#comment-41858 Rodlie Ortiz Thu, 21 May 2009 13:12:16 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-41858 If you're in a position of power this is very easy to do. Especially if you feel you know what the right thing is to do, and especially if you're under a time constraint. One thing that has helped me is to operate under a set of core values, based out of the vision of where we're going as a church. So if it doesn't fit into that, I try to explain that to them and let them down easy. But even in smaller things, yes, I've smashed people's ideas. Hopefully I've done it in graceful ways, but other times I know that it hasn't been that graceful and people have been hurt. So be careful when wielding the mace of power! If you're in a position of power this is very easy to do. Especially if you feel you know what the right thing is to do, and especially if you're under a time constraint. One thing that has helped me is to operate under a set of core values, based out of the vision of where we're going as a church. So if it doesn't fit into that, I try to explain that to them and let them down easy. But even in smaller things, yes, I've smashed people's ideas. Hopefully I've done it in graceful ways, but other times I know that it hasn't been that graceful and people have been hurt. So be careful when wielding the mace of power!

]]> By: human3rrorhttp://churchcrunch.com/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/comment-page-1/#comment-41847 human3rror Thu, 21 May 2009 02:57:05 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-41847 Good point. This person... did not take it lightly. Doh! Good point. This person… did not take it lightly. Doh!

]]> By: bbrookehttp://churchcrunch.com/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/comment-page-1/#comment-41846 bbrooke Thu, 21 May 2009 02:51:11 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-41846 Been on both side of that type of a meeting several times. In my experience if we have a mutual respect I welcome the constructive criticism (and will offer it if I feel like I have that type of connection). A real friend won't just tickle someone's ears but help them focus there passion and inspiration. Been on both side of that type of a meeting several times. In my experience if we have a mutual respect I welcome the constructive criticism (and will offer it if I feel like I have that type of connection). A real friend won't just tickle someone's ears but help them focus there passion and inspiration.

]]> By: Daniel_Bermanhttp://churchcrunch.com/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/comment-page-1/#comment-41837 Daniel_Berman Thu, 21 May 2009 00:29:49 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-41837 Thanks for learning this, I have already had two people try to smash my "baby" and really it hasn't improved our relationship. In fact, its only increased my desire to see it come to fruition. There has to be another way.... Thanks for learning this, I have already had two people try to smash my "baby" and really it hasn't improved our relationship. In fact, its only increased my desire to see it come to fruition. There has to be another way….

]]> By: Davidhttp://churchcrunch.com/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/comment-page-1/#comment-41834 David Wed, 20 May 2009 20:44:31 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-41834 I almost did exactly the same thing this afternoon...but I caught myself at the last minute. I was not a fan of their "design" but it was their baby - they were passionate about it. I offered a questioning critique but they still held firm to their design. In the end I would have damaged our relationship if I had pushed any further. You have to choose relationship first. I almost did exactly the same thing this afternoon…but I caught myself at the last minute. I was not a fan of their "design" but it was their baby – they were passionate about it. I offered a questioning critique but they still held firm to their design. In the end I would have damaged our relationship if I had pushed any further. You have to choose relationship first.

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